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Dear Abby: My friend "Kayla" and I are 12 and in seventh grade. Recently, Kayla informed me that she has acquired a new boyfriend. I didn't mind when she showed me all his lovey-dovey texts. I thought they were adorable.When I asked Kayla why her boyfriend didn't sit with us at lunch, she laughed and said, "Oh, he doesn't go to school here. He's a junior in high …

Dear Abby: I'm a 25-year-old woman with no future. I am the youngest of three daughters. My parents are divorced, and my sisters are both married. Mom has no income of her own, so it's mainly me.I have come to realize that I'll never be able to have an apartment of my own or fully live my life because of her. She's controlling and always finds a way to make me fe…

Dear Abby: I'm a 19-year-old woman, hardworking and married to my best friend. Life is amazing!So what's my problem? I burn out of jobs quickly. I'll start a job and absolutely love it, but within six months the things that I once loved about the job start to drive me crazy. Within a year, I hate my job and put in my two-week notice. It's not that I have problems…

Dear Abby: My marriage has been on the rocks since 2008, when I caught my husband talking to other girls online. He swore he would never do it again and I trusted him, only for it to happen again and again. We have a 2-year-old and I'm pregnant with our second child.He has now placed another ad online stating that he's a single dad. I am torn. He keeps telling me…

Dear Abby: You sometimes publish letters regarding random acts of kindness. I know people like to share how blessed they are that others have given to them. Well, I would like to share how being the giver is a blessing as well.My children and I eat lunch out on Saturdays. Most recently, we went to one of our favorite restaurants. As we were being seated, I notice…

Dear Abby: My daughter is getting a divorce from a wonderful young man I've grown very close to. He's away in the service, and he and my daughter have grown apart.He emails me and talks to me on Facebook quite often. I love him as a son, and I have been crying over this. I'm so upset that I'm having migraines. How do I detach from my son-in-law while still being …

Dear Abby: After 19 years of marriage, my husband left me for a younger woman. I found out later that they had been dating for several years. They moved in together immediately after our separation, and she was pregnant at the divorce hearing. They had a baby boy eight months later.At every event with my kids, they come together with their son and she steers the …

Dear Abby: On Oct. 19 you printed a letter from "Bruised and Abused," a man who is dating a woman who becomes physically violent when they argue. I have heard from authorities that about half of domestic violence occurs when a woman throws the first blow.Most women believe, as the abusive girlfriend said, that her attack on him isn't violence because she's a woman …

Dear Abby: I'm a 25-year-old guy with a unique problem. My father has been dating a woman since I was 16 who has a daughter my age named "Emma." Over the years Emma and I became good friends -- then more than that. We hooked up a few times. About a year ago, I told her I had developed feelings for her, which drove her off pretty fast. We haven't talked since. She…

Dear Abby: I have been married for 13 years to a good guy who is a great dad. We have two boys, ages 9 and 11. The problem is, we don't communicate. We hardly have sex and we don't get along at all.I feel like I have sacrificed physical and emotional intimacy so my kids can have both parents in their lives full-time. When I think of writing down my husband's attr…

Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been living together for nine months. We have decided to host Christmas dinner at our house and invited 20 people -- 10 from each of our families. His mother, unfortunately, is having a hard time accepting that her 27-year-old son is growing up.She says she feels "awkward" and that their family has had its traditions for many ye…

Dear Abby: My fiancee said, "Shut UP!" during a recent conversation with my mom, using the phrase in the same way people say "No way!" or "Get outta here!" to express friendly disbelief.As soon as we were alone, I asked my fiancee to please not use that expression with my parents. She said she'd try but warned me it might be hard to stop herself. A frequent reader …

Dear Abby: I am an educated woman in my late 20s. I have been married for several years to a wonderful man, and we were recently blessed with our first child.Since our wedding, my relationship with my mother-in-law has been an evolving one. Since the inception of "Desperate Housewives" on TV, she seems to believe she's a character on the show. She trots around in…

Dear Abby: I am a gay woman. My partner, "Jenny," and I have been friends with another couple for 15 years. Over the last year I have come to realize that I no longer want to be friends with them. One of them has been particularly unkind to me, and frankly, we don't have a lot in common.Jenny is uncomfortable with my decision and wants me to talk to them to discu…

Dear Abby: I recently met a man I love dearly, but I don't agree with the toys he buys for his 10-year-old son, "Dale." The boy plays violent video games and is obsessed with guns to the point that we can't leave the house without him bringing a toy gun along. The video games he plays (unsupervised) are violent and gory and rated M (17 and over).Dale is not matur…