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ABIGAIL VAN BUREN


Dear Abby: I'm an artist and budding filmmaker with a B.A. degree. My problems are my job situation and where I live.My dad has told me that -- like him and his father -- my brother and I share a similar problem. We all have trouble getting and keeping jobs. We never seem to get ahead or be content or comfortable. On my mother's side, however, she, her father, her …

Dear Abby: When my husband and I have a private argument, he shares our problems with our 11-year-old daughter. Later, she will tell me she sides with him about our argument.I feel my husband should not involve our daughter in our disagreements. It makes me feel betrayed. How should I deal with this issue?-- Violated in New Jersey Dear Violated: You married a…

Dear Abby: While standing in a serving line at a restaurant, a man commented to my wife about her weight. She was very upset. My take was, "Don't talk to strange men." Later, I wondered whether I should have confronted the guy, slugged him or waited for him in the parking lot.As a young man I was prone to rash actions. I would like to think in my golden years tha…

Dear Abby: On a recent airline flight, a man who sat behind me had his left leg out in the aisle most of the trip. He was wearing shorts, and you could see his large tattoo of a naked woman on his thigh. The drawing was very explicit, and there was no way to avoid seeing it because passengers had to cross over his leg to reach the bathroom.How do you explain this…

Dear Abby: May I comment on the letter from "Working the Window in Georgia" (Jan. 22), the drive-thru worker who said people should have their orders ready when they pull up to the speaker? Many drive-thru restaurants place their speakers in FRONT of the first menu you see.-- Peggy in Thornton, Colo. Dear Peggy: My readers agree with you 100 percent! Their biggest…

Dear Abby: My 11-year-old niece, "Nina," has no table manners. I was surprised at her inappropriate behavior because her parents are well-educated people who were raised with good table manners.I didn't say anything when Nina slathered clotted cream on her scone with her fingers, but I was disgusted. I did suggest she use a spoon after she scooped rice out of a com…

Dear Abby: I have a beautiful wife, a dog and an 8-year-old son I love to watch sports with. My son loves sports, but he has trouble accepting a loss. He'll take out his disappointment by beating the dog.My wife doesn't want to get rid of "Patches" because she has had him since college. I don't want to put my son through counseling because he said he'll hate me f…

Dear Abby: My mother has never liked her sister-in-law. Mom thinks "Auntie Beth" is "completely out to get her" even though no one has seen any evidence to support my mother's claims.For the past several months, Mom has been complaining nonstop about how "awful" Beth is. She says things at the most random times to people she barely knows. If we don't show sympathy …

Dear Abby: My child's best friend has a parent who is constantly late (to the tune of hours, not minutes). I understand that the child is not at fault, but my child's feelings are hurt by the blatant disregard of the other parent's tardiness. How do I help this parent (whom I adore otherwise) to understand that disappointing my child through poor time management …

Dear Abby: My mom and I have been travel agents for 15 years. My cousin, whom I have always been close to, asked to join our business multiple times over the past few years and we always said yes.A few months ago I learned that she went behind our backs and started her own travel agency. When I confronted her about hiding it from us, she denied it. Then one day I…

Dear Abby: My father is turning 60 this year, and I want to make him a photo album with pictures from throughout his life. However, Dad is widowed and remarried, so I'm having a hard time deciding what to do with respect to my mother. They were married 25 years before she died, and they loved each other very much. They raised two children together, and she was an…

Dear Abby: Two weeks ago I got a memorial tattoo done for my beloved grandma. It's on my arm and says "in loving memory" at the top. Gram's portrait is underneath, and a beautiful poem my grandpa wrote for her is under the portrait. The tattoo artist did a phenomenal job! It looks just like her and I was thrilled with the results.The problem is, I posted a pictur…

Dear Abby: My wife and I are 50-year-old professionals who have paid every penny of the cost for our two daughters' four-year college educations. Our oldest, "Lana," went on to law school and has incurred well in excess of $100,000 in law school loan debt. She has struggled to find a job as an attorney, and I'm no longer sure she still wants to practice law. Lana…

Dear Abby: "Melody" has been my best friend since we were in the fourth grade. (We're now in our 30s.) Over the past few years, Melody's life has changed. She separated from her husband, lives alone and shares custody of their three children.She started dating almost immediately after her separation. She's always crying on my shoulder because she ends up with loser…

Dear Abby: A friend's husband gave me a ride to the airport, and when I went to hug him goodbye as I have always done when we parted, he grabbed me by the arms and kissed me on the lips several times. It made me very uncomfortable and I don't want to see him again.My problem is I don't know how to end my friendship with his wife. I would never tell her, and I do …