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ABIGAIL VAN BUREN


Dear Abby: I agreed to be maid of honor at my best friend's wedding. I am now planning her bridal shower and just received the guest list from her mother and the groom's mother, "Alicia."Alicia has given me the names of about 30 guests and says there are more people she wants to invite. Abby, the entire list will amount to nearly 70 guests.I thought showers were su…

Dear Abby: My father absolutely refuses to turn off the ignition when fueling his car, despite the warning signs at the pump. How can I convince him to stop endangering himself and my mother?-- Worried Down South Dear Worried: Motorists are instructed to "Stop Motor" while refueling for good reason. Gasoline is highly flammable. However, it is not the liq…

Dear Abby: I am a divorced man with a live-in girlfriend I'll call Donna. Her two boys also live with us. Donna's older son will graduate from high school this year, and she has planned a party that her mother and other family members will attend from out of state.My daughter, "Sara," is graduating from the same high school. Sara has shared her concerns with me t…

Dear Abby: "Searching for 'Me' in Texas" (March 4) is not alone! A wave of 78 million baby boomers will soon leave careers and are looking forward to an estimated 20 more years of life."Searching" should seek out a nonprofit organization for a cause she's passionate about. If she doesn't need an income, she can volunteer. Instead of seeking a graduate degree, she c…

Dear Abby: Between juggling the joys and challenges of home life and staying productive at work, it's easy for women to make quick decisions now that could affect their health later on, or to miss early signs of medical problems altogether.To help women take control of their health, the U.S. Food and Drug Administration's Office of Women's Health and the General Se…

Dear Abby: One of my friends, "Max," cheats at golf. Otherwise he's witty, interesting and fun to be around. He moves his ball closer to the hole on the green and "improves" his lie when he thinks no one is looking. I have tried to overlook Max's transgressions, but others in our golf group talk and joke behind his back. How should I go about stopping the problem…

Dear Abby: My niece, "Amy," got her driver's license last November. Since then she has been stopped six times for violations. Unfortunately, she wasn't ticketed for any of them -- just given warnings. Who knows how many other times she should have been ticketed?My niece doesn't seem to understand the possible consequences or what serious damage a car can do to he…

Dear Abby: This Mother's Day greeting is for all those incredibly unselfish mothers who chose to place their child up for adoption. I am an adopted child whose life has been a wonderful journey. If I could send a message to my birth mother, it would be one of eternal gratitude for allowing someone else to give me the life she was unable to provide. There …

Dear Abby: I am in a relationship with someone I graduated from school with, so we have known each other for a number of years. We are both divorced. Because I'm an only child, my mother has always been protective and controlling. She hasn't recovered from my divorce, although it happened more than 10 years ago, and constantly finds fault with my current relation…

Dear Abby: When I was in sixth grade, my 19-year-old brother, "Ray," came into my room and fondled me late at night. I pretended to be asleep so I didn't have to deal with the situation. I told my mom afterward. She told me not to tell my father and bought a lock for my door.Years later, when my sister found out what happened to me, she told me Ray had also done …

Dear Abby: My husband's son -- I'll call him Duncan -- came to visit with his family. He lived with us for about six months on and off when he was younger. During that time, he twice went through my dresser drawers without my permission. The first time, we discovered a photo of me in a negligee he had found and hidden. The second time, he said he had been looking…

Dear Abby: My son came out of the closet last year. My first reaction was to tell him it was OK. (I had already suspected that he was.) I love him dearly and we're a close family. His brothers and sisters also accept and love him.My husband and I are now struggling because we're not sure how God really views gays and lesbians. To listen to some religious people, …

Dear Abby: I have been with my boyfriend "Paul" for four years. We have a child together, and we each have a child of our own. We have lived together for three years, and our family life is great. However, when I was pregnant with our son, Paul contacted an ex on a social network. One day he left his computer open, and I saw that their conversations were less tha…

Dear Abby: I'm getting married soon. My mom says we should have one side of the church reserved for my fiance's friends and family, and one side for ours. I disagree. Not only does it make me feel like we would be separating people when the occasion should be about unity, but he doesn't have a whole lot of people coming. It could embarrass him if I have 100 guest…

Dear Abby: I have been married to my husband, "Stu," for 27 years. His brother's family continues to send invitations addressed only to Stu. When they call to invite us to anything and I answer, they ask to speak to him. He has asked them not to do that.When RSVPing to the latest invitation to our niece's graduation party -- addressed only to my husband -- I said t…