The first step to find “IT” was to define your why. Why are you here? What do you want? Where are you going? Where did you come from? How did you get here?
The second step to find “IT” is the mirror. If you choose to pursue your "IT," you must have the courage to look in the mirror. Many questions need to be answered.
Who are you?
What is your behavior style?
How do you learn? Do you want to see “IT,” feel “IT” or hear “IT”?
Those who know themselves will always have the advantage. Many students are willing to look in the mirror and reveal the truth. They realize the only way to reach their personal potential is to be honest with themselves.
Some of you may have taken a DISC Assessment Report for work purposes. I had never taken a DISC Assessment and was at a business meeting where the speaker was discussing how her husband drove her nuts. I started to pay attention and thought, “I have a husband that can drive me nuts, too!” I ran to the back of the room and bought her book. There was an assessment in the book. I took the assessment for me and took it for my husband. As I was reading off his weaknesses to him, I had a delayed intelligence attack. I sat up and said to him, “Wow, you can’t help yourself. I thought you acted like this on purpose just to drive me nuts!” I didn’t have a clue that I had married a person totally opposite of me.
To be honest with you, that book and the information in it saved our marriage. Since that time, we have become certified in behavior, motivation and emotional intelligence. We have created a DISC Golf Assessment to help others realize who they are. Many college golf teams and corporations have hired us to train their teams.
If you watched the Players Championship on Sunday and paid any attention to what was going on you would have been able to witness the difference in players. Jason Duffner is an S personality. S stands for Steady. Very rarely will you see any facial expressions. He almost appeared to be miserable out there, even though he came in fifth. Tiger Woods is a high D personality. Driven, competitive and on a mission to win. Bryson DeChambeau is a C behavior style. Cautious, analytical and looking for perfect. Rickie Fowler is an I behavior style. Influencing, life of the party and inspiring others.
Most of us fall into one or two of these types. Why is it important for you to know which one you are? Because you will not achieve maximum success if you are trying to mask your behavior style or adapt yourself to be someone you are not.
High D's take risks, want to win and tend to do things quickly. The high I's are always late, are the life of the party and talk incessantly. High S styles prefer to hit balls alone, wish to remain anonymous and typically have great tempo. The high Cs can be superstitious, seek perfection and tend to be slow players because they are so cautious.
Once you know who you are, it is imperative for you to play to your best self. A high D can never play well trying to act like an S and vice versa. This might also explain why you might love or hate playing with certain people. D is opposite of S. An I is opposite of C. Funny thing is most people marry their opposite. Most C behavior styles are neat freaks. I behavior styles tend to be messy and disorganized. We seem to be attracted to what we don’t have, then once married, criticize their different behaviors.
The next step is to understand how you learn. Let me explain. What if you had to go somewhere you have never been? You are not allowed to use your phone or GPS. Would you want me to tell you how to get there, prefer to read written directions or look at a map? How you answered that question will shed light on how you want to receive information. When taking lessons, be sure you ask the instructor to teach you in your language. Once you know who you are and how you learn you can move forward and improve.
For those who are visual, being shown how to swing will help you as well as making a video of your swing. Those who want to hear it may want to practice with music or a metronome. If you want to feel it, ask your instructor to help you feel the correct golf swing.
Denial is a river in Africa. Some prefer to stay delusional about their mistakes. I guarantee if you have the courage to look in the mirror and reveal the truth, you can improve anything!
Cindy Miller is a former LPGA Tour Player, a current member of the Legends Tour of the LPGA, and a Golf Channel Academy Lead Coach. She is a Certified Behavior, Motivation, and Judgment Professional who is sought after as a speaker, coach and corporate trainer. Reach out to her at email@example.com. Follow her at https://cindymillerinc.com and on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn.