Dear Abby: I’m a hypochondriac. I am currently waiting on the biopsy results for a mole I had removed. Right now I’m worried and miserable. I feel guilty for what I’m putting my husband through. I want to get therapy, but doing that feels like admitting I’m too weak to handle my problems myself. My husband thinks he’s a bad husband because he can’t help me.
How can I deal with my fear of dying from something horrible without damaging my relationship with my husband? Can hypochondria be cured? It’s starting to take over my life.
– Hypochondriac in The South
Dear Hypochondriac: It’s a wise person who seeks help for a problem that’s ruining the quality of his or her life. You should definitely discuss your fear of dying with a licensed mental health professional.
Bridesmaid’s hairy armpits
Dear Abby: My son is getting married in the fall and we’re all looking forward to the celebration. There’s just one problem. My daughter will be in the wedding and the bridesmaids’ dresses are strapless. She will look beautiful in the dress, but she adopted a “hippy lifestyle” a year ago and stopped shaving her armpits.
The bride-to-be asked me how to approach her to request that she remove her armpit hair on the day of the wedding. Is there a tactful way to approach this?
– Unsure in New Jersey
Dear Unsure: I would discourage you from doing that. Although every bride wants her wedding to be “perfect,” there’s a point at which she must realize there are some things she can’t control. During a formal wedding ceremony, bridesmaids usually keep their arms down, so it should not distract attention from the bride.
Stuck in middle of squabble
Dear Abby: My parents built a two-bedroom apartment onto their house for my brother and his wife when they were struggling financially. They decided to move out of state, so my single sister is now in the apartment.
It has been a year, and my brother and his wife are now expecting. They have moved back to the area because they want to raise the baby near family, and want the apartment back. Of course, my sister doesn’t want to give it back. I feel she shouldn’t have to.
I agree with my sister that my brother gave it up. But my brother feels my single sister doesn’t need a two-bedroom apartment. My husband, my parents and I are in the middle. What do you think should be done?
– Squabbling Siblings
Dear “Squab”: Get out of the middle by stepping away. The apartment belongs to your parents, and it is up to them to decide who gets to use it.