Dear Abby: When my friend became pregnant, her boyfriend didn’t stick around to be in the baby’s life. The three of us had gone to school together, and they started dating years later. When she asked me to be the child’s godmother, I said yes. The baby is 5 months old now.
While I was out at a bar recently, I ran into the boyfriend. My friend is now mad at me because I said hello to him. She thinks I should have ignored him.
She’s now saying she never wants to talk to me or see me again. What should I do?
– Confused Godmother
Dear Confused: Frankly, I think you should take this vindictive individual at her word until she apologizes. If you do there will be far less turmoil in your life.
Girlfriend’s secret income
Dear Abby: My girlfriend and I each own our homes and have about the same mortgage payment. She ends up staying with me most of the time.
I recently found out that she has been Airbnbing her condo a lot of the weekends when she stays with me. I feel taken advantage of even though it doesn’t really affect me whether her place is empty or she’s getting rent.
What is the etiquette on such an arrangement? Should I be getting a cut?
– Weekend Roomies
Dear Weekend Roomies: There is no rule of etiquette governing whether you’re entitled to some of the income she receives from renting out her place. Discuss this with your entrepreneurial girlfriend and see how she feels about sharing the wealth. Her reaction will give insight into her character.
Coming to work sick
Dear Abby: I am an elementary school teacher, and I have noticed that many of my colleagues come to work when they’re sick. Taking time away from work to recover from an illness seems to be viewed as weakness.
These co-workers wear their illnesses like badges of honor – as if coming to work sick somehow shows their dedication. I feel it is inconsiderate to the children and to other staff members who are forced to spend hours with them in enclosed spaces exposed to their germs.
I’m not sure how to express my feelings because one of the worst offenders is the principal. Any suggestions?
– Sick & Tired in California
Dear Sick & Tired: You are entitled to air your feelings about this with other staff members in the teachers’ lounge. However, if you think your principal might retaliate, make a point of keeping your distance when your boss shows any symptoms of something contagious.
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