Dear Abby: My fiance is in the Marine Reserves. He has been in for five years, and his contract is due to end next year. After that, he will either resign or re-enlist.
He’s obsessed with the idea of serving his country and deploying. While I respect that, for him to deploy, he must re-enlist, and his new contract will be for another six years. He could be sent overseas many times in six years.
I can’t imagine life without him. I know it sounds selfish, but how can I talk him into not re-enlisting or at least communicate that I don’t want him to do this again?
– Wants Him Stateside
Dear Wants: Frankly, I am surprised you haven’t told your fiance your feelings about this already, because you should have. While I wouldn’t ask him to choose between you and his military service, I do think you have some serious thinking to do about your future. Being a military spouse requires a special kind of strong, independent and dedicated person. While you may love him, if this isn’t a lifestyle to which you can adapt, then he may not be the husband for you.
Girl needs dance primer
Dear Abby: I just got asked to my first high school dance by “Josh.” I don’t know what to do, what to wear or what to say. I don’t even know how to dance.
Josh is very popular and has done this before, but I haven’t. He’s my best friend, and I’m scared of losing him because I’m not good enough. Should I go, or call it off and just stay home?
– Inexperienced in Nevada
Dear Inexperienced: If you weren’t “good enough,” Josh wouldn’t have invited you to the dance. Because you haven’t danced before, ask him to give you some pointers before the big night.
As to what to wear, if any of your girlfriends have attended the dances, ask them for suggestions. However, if none of them have been to a school dance either, ask any female relative of the same age, or ask Josh.