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Dear Abby: Wife says stoppage time has run out for soccer enthusiast

Dear Abby: My husband, an avid soccer player, injured himself twice last year, which left him unable to work for months at a time. He refuses to hang up his cleats because he says it’s his “one true passion.” I think he’s being selfish because his soccer injuries have caused a financial, emotional and physical strain on our family.

I can’t be the only wife/mom who doesn’t want the additional risk. Any advice on how to get through to him?

– Sports Wife in Cleveland

Dear Sports Wife: I don’t know how old your husband is, but two serious injuries in one year may be a hint from Father Time that his reflexes aren’t as acute as they once were, and he should channel his passion in another direction. (Coaching, perhaps?)

Assuming you have insurance, contact your agent and ask if there is additional coverage your husband can take out in case he is seriously injured again. Of course, it won’t guarantee that he won’t hurt himself, but it might give you some peace of mind in case he does.

Mom won’t drink to that

Dear Abby: I’m 23 and live with my parents – a situation I am working to change, to be sure. When I come home from work, I occasionally like to have a glass of wine or a beer. Obviously, because I’m an adult, this should not be a problem, but every time I touch alcohol my mom freaks out.

My family’s view of alcohol seems to have been skewed because of our history of alcoholism. Abby, one glass of wine a night does not an alcoholic make, right? – Unwinding in New England

Dear Unwinding: Ordinarily, I would say no. But a tendency toward addiction can run in families, and for someone with a predisposition to alcoholism, a glass (or two) of wine every night could escalate and lead to problems. Because you live in your mother’s house, try to be more sensitive to her feelings and respect them.

Try ‘tender tummy’ excuse

Dear Abby: My neighbor often comes over to share some of her home cooking. Unfortunately, it tastes horrible. She invariably asks me the next day how I liked it, and I really don’t enjoy lying. How can I tell her I don’t like her cooking and I don’t want her to bring me any more?

– Tender Tummy in Washington

Dear Tender Tummy: Say that although you appreciate her generosity, her cooking hasn’t agreed with you – you have a “tender tummy” – so please refrain from bringing over any more food.

Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren and was founded by her mother, Pauline Phillips. Write Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 60069.