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Dear Abby: Teen would like to stiff-arm mom’s ‘affectionate’ friend

Dear Abby: I’m 16, go to high school, play football and make good grades.

At church every Sunday, a lady who is one of my mom’s friends always makes a point of coming up to me to talk. She says things about me growing up to be a man, and asks me if I’m dating. She always gives me an extended hug. It’s really uncomfortable for me, and embarrassing.

I tried to talk to my mom about it, but she just said her friend is a very affectionate person. To me, the way she does it is creepy and scary. I don’t want to be unfriendly to anybody, but this is different. Any suggestions?

– Enough Already, In South Carolina

Dear Enough: Yes. Listen to your gut. Tell your mother her friend is coming across as creepy and scary. Because her behavior makes you uncomfortable, avoid physical contact with her by stepping back when she tries to hug you. And if she brings up the subject of whether you’re dating, change the subject (“Lovely sermon, wasn’t it, Mrs. Robinson?”). Then walk away.

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Dear Abby: I bought several designer outfits for my infant niece. My sister was thrilled with the quality and brands until a friend told her that I had purchased them at a consignment shop. The clothes still have the original tags on them and clearly were never worn.

My sister returned the clothes to me and told me that because they were from a consignment shop, she did not want them and they wouldn’t be used. Is something wrong with gifting an item purchased at a consignment shop?

Gift Giving In New York

Dear Gift Giving: Of course not! Your sister was extremely rude to do what she did. And I have to wonder about the “friend” who felt compelled to tell her where the baby gifts had been purchased, in light of the fact that the price tags were still on the garments and they had never been worn.