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Dear Abby: Don’t date behind back of parents

Dear Abby: My boyfriend, “Aidan,” and I have been dating for three months. I want to tell my parents, but I don’t know how. They say I’m too young and immature to date. I’ll be 16 in five months. They say Aidan is obsessed with me and they don’t want me staying in an unhealthy relationship.

My parents think I’m not talking to Aidan, but I am. I want to show them that I’m mature enough for a relationship. All they keep saying is that I need to be “realistic” and “respectful,” but I’m more respectful than half the people I know. I don’t want to keep this from my parents anymore – what should I do?

– Teen Girl in Illinois

Dear Teen Girl: When parents say a teen is too young to date, they aren’t talking about the number of candles on her birthday cake. If your parents are worried that Aidan is “obsessed,” they must have a reason.

Sneaking around isn’t a way to gain anyone’s confidence. Teens show that they are mature and responsible enough to handle the privilege of dating by being open, honest, communicating their feelings, listening respectfully to the opinions of others, and shouldering responsibility. If you start now, you may be able to convince your parents.

Walking in spike heels

Dear Abby: I see so many young girls wear spike heels. I know they think that they look glamorous, but a word of advice: Learn to walk in them at home. Girls, you look like ducks, walking with your knees bent because the heels are so high and you haven’t practiced. I know what I’m talking about because those heels were in style when I was young.

– Smart Lady in Tennessee

Dear Smart Lady: There is nothing wrong with that advice. Practice makes perfect.

However, let me add another suggestion: When I buy a pair of spike heels, the first thing I do is take them to my shoemaker and have the heels cut down a quarter-inch, which makes them more comfortable – and safer – for walking.