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Dear Abby: Alienated by husband’s long hours

Dear Abby: I’m 19 and I got married six months ago to the love of my life! We have a great relationship despite how young we are. There’s one problem though: my husband’s job.

His shift is 11 a.m. to 7:30 p.m., six days a week, and when he is not working, he’s sleeping, so he has no time for me at all and it’s killing our marriage. We spend maybe eight hours together a week. I’m feeling extremely alone.

I know it’s not his fault, because he has to keep this job to support us, but the very thing that is supporting us is tearing us apart. What do I do? Please help.

–Lonely Married Woman

Dear Lonely: With the schedule your husband is working, you should have time in the mornings and evenings to spend with each other – plus Sundays. However, if your days are spent sitting around at home, then what you need to do is find an activity to fill your lonely hours.

You could take some classes, find a job and help out with the finances, or meet him for lunch. If that’s not possible, look around for volunteer opportunities in your community. Worthwhile organizations can always use a helping hand.

Being judged on church attire

Dear Abby: I like to wear a suit and tie to a church where most people dress casually. It doesn’t matter to me how others dress, and I have good reasons for my choice of attire. But sometimes I hear seemingly judgmental comments about my clothing. What would be a good reaction and reply to such comments?

– Jeff in Fullerton, Calif.

Dear Jeff: People who make judgmental comments about your attire are not worth the effort. I’d advise against getting into a spitting contest with a viper, because it might mess up your suit.

Write to Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 60069.