Dear Abby: I am 19, and I like “Cheri,” a girl who is 16. My friends and family think we’re dating, and, now, one of my teachers and the school officer think it is a problem that we are around each other. I asked Cheri’s family if it was all right with them if I asked her out. Knowing how old I am, they approved.
My mom says I can be arrested for statutory rape when all I did was give her a kiss on her cheek, and Cheri was fine with it. I really like her, and she means the world to me. Is there anything I can use in my defense to prove that we didn’t do anything wrong?
– Slippery Slope in New Hampshire
Dear Slippery: I don’t think anyone is accusing you of having done anything “wrong.” When young men and women are attracted to each other, the relationship rarely stays static. The concern may be that an innocent kiss on the cheek may lead to something more.
That your friend’s parents approve of you seeing their daughter is a plus. However, if you become sexually involved with their daughter, their feelings could easily change. While you might not be in trouble with the law in New Hampshire – which may calm your mother’s fears – the age of consent isn’t the same in every state.
Tracking kin on social media
Dear Abby: I have a family member who does not “have time” to contact, by phone or email, those near and dear to him and tell us what’s happening in his life. (If one goes to Facebook, we see that our family member posts every personal detail of his life.)
Is this the new communication? Should we accept this and run to look at Facebook every time we want to know what’s happening in our loved one’s life?
– Left Behind in the Real World
Dear Left Behind: Yes, it is, so you might as well accept it. Be glad you are computer-savvy enough to know how to find his postings, because it’s unlikely your loved one will change.