Dear Abby: I’m 16 and a single mom of an almost 4-month-old girl. Her father is a drug addict. He manipulated me into having sex, which I had told him I didn’t want to do until I was married. Also, I told him from the beginning of our relationship that if we ever got married and started a family, I never wanted drugs around my children.
The day I found out I was pregnant, he was there. However, later that night when I went out to the garage, I caught him snorting. Is it wrong of me to not involve him in her life? I’ve given him multiple chances to prove himself of being worthy.
– Teen Mom
Dear Teen Mom: You’re not wrong. As long as your boyfriend is involved with drugs, they will come first, and you and your child won’t be able to count on him for anything.
This is why it is crucial that you now make your education a priority and earn your high school diploma. You are going to need one – and possibly further education – in order to support the both of you. In the meantime, a counselor at your high school can guide you regarding financial aid if you need it.
Moocher abuses lawn mower
Dear Abby: My next-door neighbor keeps asking to use my lawn mower. When he uses it, he runs over stumps and garbage in his yard. I feel that he’s abusing my generosity. I have hinted that he should pick up things in the yard before he mows, but he never listens. How should I handle this?
– Dull Blades in West Virginia
Dear Dull Blades: Stop beating around the bush. When your neighbor asks to borrow the mower again, tell him that in the past when he has returned it to you, the blades were dull and it created problems for you. Then say no.
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