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Dear Abby: Teen girl is distressed by male boss

Dear Abby: I’m 16 and just got my first job working in food services. I have been working here for about two months, and have grown close with my co-worker “Samantha” and my male boss. Samantha quit suddenly a few days ago. Today she told me that our boss had told her that he had strong feelings for her. He’s married with kids.

I am now very uncomfortable being there, but I still want to continue working for the experience and to save money for college. I’m not sure what to do. I haven’t even told my parents yet.

– Server Girl in Chicago

Dear Server Girl: Now that you know your employer is capable of inappropriate behavior, keep your distance. If he does make a move on you, “remind” him that you are a minor, and if he doesn’t stop it, you will tell your parents and he could get into serious trouble. That should cool his ardor.

Celebrity worship irritating

Dear Abby: I am in a happy relationship with my girlfriend, “Tracy.” Recently, she has been talking on and on about how she is so in love with a particular celebrity. I find it irritating when she says things such as “That’s my man” or “I had an intense dream about him.” How am I supposed to react?

I feel I should have something clever to say in response. Ordinarily I’m not a jealous person, but lately I have begun feeling that way. Am I being ridiculous? Please help.

– Regular Guy in Indiana

Dear Regular Guy: Ask your girlfriend how she would feel if you kept telling her you’re “in love” with Jennifer Lopez or Beyoncé and have “intense” dreams about them. Then skip the clever comeback and tell her honestly that what she’s doing is annoying and that you want her to cut it out. That’s honest and direct, and unless your girlfriend has shredded wheat for brains, she’ll comply.

Write to Dear Abby at or P.O. Box 69440, Los Angeles, CA 60069.