Dear Abby: Last week, I had a seizure in front of my fourth-grade students. This has never happened to me before, so I had never spoken to my students about such a thing. I want to write them and their families a letter expressing my apologies, thanking them for their kind thoughts and giving basic advice on how to handle a seizure. Is this appropriate? If so, how do I start the letter?
– Appropriate in New Jersey
Dear Appropriate: Before writing the letter, check with the principal of your school. Because you now know that you are prone to having seizures, I think it makes sense that your students should know what one is, and what to do in case it happens again in the classroom. Some seizures can be almost unnoticeable, while others can be quite severe. If yours are severe, a student should immediately inform another adult and ask for help.
P.S. While you may want to thank everyone for their kindness, it should not be necessary to apologize to anybody for something you couldn’t control.
Don’t be a pushy mom
Dear Abby: My daughter has always been very independent. She had a normal childhood with the usual friends and events, nothing traumatic that I know of. She is a pretty girl with a funny personality and is very bright.
The issue is, she is 18 and has been on only two dates. She shows no interest in forming any sort of romantic relationship. She has never had a boyfriend, though many boys have expressed interest in her. The two dates she did go on, one in high school and one in college, she called “duds.”
She says she’s not gay, and has commented on good-looking guys. I don’t know what to think. Do you?
– Wondering Mom
Dear Wondering Mom: You say your daughter has always been independent. It’s possible she has enough self-assurance that she doesn’t think she needs a man in her life right now. It may also be that before becoming emotionally involved with anyone she would prefer to focus on her education or career path. Whatever her reasons, you would be making a mistake to push her in any direction she doesn’t feel ready for, or make her uncomfortable about being the way she is.
Move over, please
Dear Abby: If I sit at the end of a pew in church and someone comes in after me insisting I move because it’s his/her “favorite” seat, should I do it or ask the person to sit somewhere else?
– Got Here First in Pennsylvania
Dear G.H.F.: If you’re sitting in God’s house, you should be on your best behavior. Don’t commit a sin of omission; be an angel and shove over.