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Dear Abby: Teen hesitates to approach parents about fear of OCD

Dear Abby: I’m 13 and I’m afraid I may have OCD. I want to find out, but what’s standing in my way is that sometimes my parents think I make stuff up to get attention. I’m afraid to tell them, but I know if I do, it will answer my question. Can you give me some advice?

– Anonymous in Ohio

Dear Anonymous: Be brave and talk to your parents about your fears. They are your best friends, and you should be able to talk to them about anything – particularly anything that bothers you.

However, before you do, make a list of the behaviors that cause you to think you may have OCD, and when you approach them, read them what’s on it. That way, if you become nervous, you won’t forget anything.

Daughter’s boyfriend issues

Dear Abby: My daughter and her boyfriend have been dating for three years. They are now in their first year of college and she gets upset when he texts other girls and Snapchats them. He makes her feel like she’s overreacting, but I can understand her fears that he is being unfaithful. What do you think about social networking and how it can affect relationships and even marriage?

– Wise Mom in North Carolina

Dear Wise Mom: If someone wants to be unfaithful, social networking makes it easier than ever. But men and women who are ready to settle down and make a commitment do not look for outside adventures, no matter how they go about it.

If your daughter is insecure about what her boyfriend is doing, she may have good reason. If she’s right about her hunches, the time has come for BOTH of them to meet and date other people. Because she has spent so much of her teens with only this young man, the prospect may frighten her. But please explain that this will be her chance to mature and grow. As a “Wise Mom,” I’m sure you can get the message across.