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Dear Abby: Be happy son-in-law will soon be an ‘ex’

Dear Abby: My daughter was married eight months ago. During the planning of the wedding, her fiance was involved in every aspect of decision-making. Soon after the vows were exchanged, her new husband became cold and distant toward her. He would tell her she made him miserable, and he allowed his mother to ridicule and berate her.

My husband and I kept quiet because we didn’t want to interfere. About a month ago, he decided he no longer wanted to be married. Since then, my daughter has revealed that shortly after the wedding she discovered her engagement ring was a fake, and he insisted she pay for half the costs of the honeymoon.

I am furious that my soon-to-be ex-son-in-law watched us spend thousands of dollars on a wedding, knowing full well my daughter was wearing a fake ring on her hand and then insisted she pay for half the honeymoon. He shows no remorse and portrays himself as the “victim” for having married someone who couldn’t get along with his mother. How do I move forward and get over my anger?

– Outraged In Oklahoma

Dear Outraged: Start by thanking your lucky stars that your daughter will soon be free of a husband who appears to be already married to his mother. Then realize that your daughter was married to a dishonest, verbally abusive user to whom she might have been tied for a lifetime if she’d had a child with him.

Unsure about kids

Dear Abby: I’m a 24-year-old gay man, and I still don’t know if I want to have children or not. When will I know for sure? And in the meantime, what should I tell the guys I date?

– Undecided In Washington, D.C.

Dear Undecided: It is not unusual for a person your age – regardless of sexual orientation – to be unsure about taking on the responsibilities of parenthood. You will probably know “for sure” when you are in a stable relationship. In the meantime, tell guys you date you “think” you’d like to be a parent one day.