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No, it's not a good marriage

Dear Abby: My husband, "Will," and I have been married three years. It's a good marriage on most levels, but what causes most of our problems is the way he treats me. Will always assumes his way is correct. When I do something around the house, he comes up behind me and redoes it -- including refolding the clothes. He even corrects the way I speak and pronounce words.

It has gotten to the point that I have shut down. I don't do much of anything around the house anymore because I figure it's a waste of my time. Will gets angry and makes fun of my "laziness." How do I get through to him that some things aren't worth making me feel miserable? When I try to explain how he makes me feel, he gets mad and pouts.

-- Getting Tired of It in Texas

Dear Getting Tired: From your description of your household, your relationship with your husband is NOT "good." In fact, the way Will is treating you could be considered a form of abuse. By constantly belittling and correcting you, he is trying to assert control and shake your confidence in yourself.

A husband who pouts and makes you feel bad when you tell him he's making you miserable is a poor life partner. He may be insecure, overbearing or have obsessive-compulsive disorder. Or he could be a potential abuser. Insist on marriage counseling to find out which, or get out of there while you still can.

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No age limit on love

Dear Abby: Today I asked my wife of many years, "Do you still love me?" Her answer was, "At our age, there is friendship at most."

I think that love has no age limit. Who is right?

-- Leon in Marco Island, Fla.

Dear Leon: You are. There is no age limit on love. Love is love, whether you're a teenager or an octogenarian, and if you're lucky, even older than that.

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