Dear Abby: I just lost my 15-year-old sister to bullying and the school here is not doing anything about it. There have been a number of suicides due to this behavior. I want schools to realize they need to take action before someone else gets hurt.
Bullying isn't harmless and it should be taken seriously. I have heard of a bullying law in some schools, but it needs to be in ALL schools. I should not have to bury my sister at such a young age.
Abby, can you please get a message out to schools and their students about bullying? Thank you.
-- Grief-Stricken Sister in Michigan
Dear Grief-Stricken Sister: Please accept my deepest sympathy not only for the untimely loss of your sister, but also the tragic circumstances surrounding her death. Although bullying is something that has gone on for generations, in recent years school boards have only begun to realize what a serious and pervasive problem it truly is and have instituted zero tolerance policies.
In many schools where student suicides have occurred, the administration has provided grief counseling and programs to sensitize students and faculty in order to prevent it from happening. If that isn't being done in your community, the parents should be very worried.
Avoid the impulse
Dear Abby: When a man meets a woman wearing a low-cut top, is it rude to momentarily glance down (not stare) at her cleavage? Most men find this a natural, unavoidable impulse.
-- Doin' What Comes Naturally
Dear Doin': It may be a "natural, unavoidable impulse," but gentlemen have learned to control their impulses. And that's what I recommend you do -- unless you want to offend the woman you're with or the woman you're meeting. I'm surprised you haven't heard the phrase, "My eyes are up HERE."
Dear Readers: From the bottom of my heart, I wish all of you a happy, healthy and prosperous 2011.
-- Love, Abby