Dear Abby: From time to time you print letters about random acts of kindness. On Jan. 30, 2009, my husband and I took our three kids to a restaurant for breakfast to celebrate our twins' fourth birthday. When it was time to pay our bill, the waiter told us that a couple who had been sitting behind us had taken care of our tab.
What that couple didn't know was that the day before, my doctor had informed me a lump in my neck was probably lymphoma. He had wanted me to meet with a surgeon that morning, but I told him no. It was the twins' birthday, and I didn't want them to associate their birthday with the day Mommy got sick.
What that couple did gave me hope. I felt it was a sign that everything would be "taken care of." To pay it forward, we left the waiter a large tip.
I did end up with Hodgkin's but have been in remission since August 2009.
-- Blessed in Wisconsin
Dear Blessed: Your hope was rewarded and everything WAS "taken care of." And because Hodgkin's lymphoma is a treatable cancer, I hope you will continue to enjoy good health for many decades to come.
Dad is too busy for her
Dear Abby: I have a big problem. My father refuses to spend time with me. He is a firefighter and says he has a busy schedule. I tried talking to him -- it was like talking to a brick wall. My mom has comforted me a lot, but I feel there is something missing in my life.
-- Girl in Need in Baltimore
Dear Girl in Need: You have already done as much as you can. It is now up to your mother and/or your grandparents to help your father understand that there is more to being a parent than providing financial support. I hope he gets the message before it's too late -- for him, not you.