Dear Abby: My boyfriend, "Claude," and I are deeply in love. He's devoted to me and my son. He includes my son in everything we do.
My problem is, he recently mentioned that he is on the national sex offenders list. He says he didn't do it and that he was framed.
Should I believe him or run the other way? It scares me to think that I am putting my son in danger, but then again, I don't believe Claude did what they say he did. Please help me.
-- Mom in the South
Dear Mom: The first thing you should do is check the national sex offenders database. Find out if Claude should, by virtue of the fact that he is a convicted sex offender, even be around children. Learn the facts of what happened from the authorities in that community. And then, think with your head instead of your heart and put your son's welfare above everything.
Kids are quick learners
Dear Abby: My son is married to a Japanese woman who is well-educated and speaks both Japanese and English fluently. They have a daughter, "Mari," who is 2 1/2 and just starting to talk. My concern is whether my granddaughter should be taught English or Japanese first.
Mari already speaks and understands a little of each language, but I'm worried that she may grow up confused while trying to communicate with others.
Am I being concerned about something I shouldn't be?
-- Happy Papa in California
Dear Happy Papa: Children absorb languages like sponges absorb water. Mari is a lucky little girl to be learning Japanese and English so young. If she's able to practice both, they will become interchangeable for her. So stop worrying, and if you're receptive, she may teach you a few phrases.