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Good son is stood up on first date

Dear Abby: My son, "Peter," is in college working on a postgraduate degree. He arranged a date with a young woman while they were home over the holidays. After accepting the first date and breaking it, she agreed to a second one. As Peter was driving to pick her up, he called to double-check her address only to be told she was still at a previous engagement. Peter expected she'd call back when she was free -- but she didn't. There was no further communication.

What is happening to young people today? Do texting and online social networking encourage them to avoid consideration of others? My thoughtful, sensitive son sat home thinking he wasn't important enough for an explanation! At 26, he's beginning to think he should just focus on finishing school and forget the dating scene.

-- Mother of a Good Son

Dear Mother: Your son may be thoughtful and sensitive, but he appears to have unfortunate taste in women. How old was the girl -- because she appears to have the emotional maturity of a young teenager. Rather than giving up on dating, he should look for company among women who are at his intellectual and emotional level -- in college or grad school or perhaps a little older.

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Invited to wedding in Mexico

Dear Abby: My husband was recently invited to the wedding of a co-worker. The wedding is in Mexico. Shouldn't these types of invitations be issued to family and very close friends only? Is this proper?

-- Annoyed in Illinois

Dear Annoyed: No. If the co-worker knows your husband is married, the invitation should have been addressed to "Mr. and Mrs." Since it wasn't, he should send his regrets.

However, because the bride is someone he will be interacting with on an ongoing basis, the politic way to handle this would be to present the happy couple with a token gift from both of you upon their return -- although you are not socially obligated to do so.