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R U nagging today?

126238642_3374dcfaaf Every parenting blog in the land is mentioning President Obama's speech that's being shown in many schools today. Turns out it's about working hard, being responsible, etc.  I'll leave it to the conspiracy theorists to decode the subliminal socialist messages. (Just kidding, folks.)

With that out of the way, let's move on to a Washington Post article about parents using text messaging to nag their kids.

One parent in the article mentioned that kids seem more receptive to a text from Mom or Dad than they do to live, in-person nagging. Texting reduces the eye-rolling factor, the theory goes.

While it certainly is tempting to depersonalize this parental chore, I think the article brings up a larger issue: How much should parents be micromanaging their kids' lives?

Whether you choose texting, e-mailing, IMing, Facebooking, Twittering, or even real-time conversation, is it your job to remind John and Jane to bring their lunch to school, bring their homework home, arrive home in time for dinner, let you know their whereabouts, etc., etc? 

In our house we had a discussion about alarm clocks last night. As in, a 10- and 12-year-old should be able to use said device to wake themselves up in time for school. Mom and Dad are not running a hotel with daily wakeup calls. We also don't make their beds, turns down their beds and leave a mint on the pillow.

Texting is a handy device, but I don't want technology to turn into an umbilical cord. Our job as parents is to raise self-sufficient human beings, not young co-dependents.

---Greg