Dear Ann Landers: I am a 20-year-old college student living with three other roommates the same age. One of our roommates, "Gloria," is causing a lot of problems for the rest of us. She is dating a married man. This isn't the first time she has been involved in an inappropriate relationship, but I didn't know about her entanglements until after we moved in together.
The man Gloria is dating now is a lot older and has kids in their late 20s. He doesn't hide his cheating. In fact, he wants us to invite him over to "hang out." Gloria bragged about their sexual relationship, and his wife found out about it. She has been calling our house to see if her husband is here. Now, Gloria demands that we not answer the phone or, if we do, that we lie to the man's wife.
We have lost all respect for Gloria and would like to kick her out, but none of us has the guts. I feel horrible for this man's family and do not want to be caught in a confrontation with his wife. Please give us some suggestions on how to handle this situation.
-- Beside Ourselves in Oregon
Dear Oregon: Give Gloria notice -- either she stops seeing that married man, or she will have to move out at the end of the month. Be firm about it. Let her know that if she doesn't break off the relationship, you are packing her bags and she'll find them on the front porch -- and keep your word.
Dear Ann Landers: In August, I received a telephone call from a woman who said I had won a foreign lottery. She asked if I remembered entering, and I said: "No. I have bought so many lottery tickets that I can't recall all the different ones."
She then informed me there had been a drawing and my name had shown up in the list of 200 semi-finalists. A second drawing put my name as one of five finalists. She said the directors of the lottery decided that $450 million was too much to give to just one person, so it was going to be divided among all five of the finalists. Applying simple arithmetic, it comes out to $90 million for each of us. All that was required was for me to send $10, which I promptly did.
It has been three months, and so far I have received absolutely nothing. I phoned the local Better Business Bureau and was told: "You will never get any money from them. Why should they pay you? They already have your money."
-- Rockford, Ill.
Dear Rockford: Barnum was right.
Driving and talking
Dear Ann Landers: The Japanese National Police Agency recently announced that in six months, it had recorded nine deaths and 1,627 injuries in car accidents where the drivers were talking on cell phones. I wonder if that's how it is in the United States.
Dear N.Y.C.: Yakkers are the same worldwide. They can't possibly give full attention to driving when they're gabbing on the phone. I'm sure the accident rate is about the same in the United States.
Gem of the day
Too many people quit looking for work when they find a job.
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