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Dear Boyfriend calls her parents every time they get in fight

Dear Abby: My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. We are both 29. When we have a fight, the first thing he does is text message my parents and tell them everything. I have asked him many times to please not involve them. We are adults and we should be able to handle our problems without interference from my parents. I never have, and never would, complain to his mother about him. His response has always been, “I can involve whoever I want.”

He knows I feel disrespected when he does this, and he still won’t change. Is there anything else I can do?

– Hurt in Santa Maria

Dear Hurt: Yes, you can change boyfriends.

Adult son seeks privacy

Dear Abby: I’m a 26-year-old man, currently living in Boston and in my final year of grad school. My parents help me out with finances because I have very little income.

One of the things they have done is keep me on the family phone plan. However, there’s a catch: They recently announced that my “cost” for staying on their phone plan is installing an app that allows them to track my location at all times.

In Boston, that’s not a huge deal, but when I’m visiting them in Georgia on breaks, it’s a point of contention, since I must let them know I’m taking a car. This will alert them to the fact I’ll be out, and remove any trace of privacy I might have while I’m there.

When I told them I’ll pay my portion of the bill, their response was, “Would you prefer more texts and phone calls?” How can I deal with this situation?

– Needs My Privacy

Dear Needs Privacy: Your parents are treating you like a child, although you are an adult and should be entitled to some privacy. Look into ways of getting a reasonably priced phone plan, i.e., a prepaid phone. And when you visit them, refrain from using their car if it’s an issue.