Dear Abby: I have been a nurse for 35 years, and over time, I have noticed a decline in simple courtesy from people who visit friends or relatives in the hospital. Several things visitors should keep in mind:
1. If you don’t know what room the patient has been assigned, ASK. Don’t wander in and out of rooms until you find the right one.
2. Be prepared to give the first and last names of the patient when asking for directions.
3. Abide by the visiting hours and the number of persons allowed into a patient’s room at one time. Remember, patients need dedicated time for treatments and procedures.
4. Do not bring small children to the hospital unless they are visiting their parent or sibling. You needlessly place them at risk by exposing them to infections.
5. Make sure any food you bring to the patient is allowed by the physician.
6. Never question the staff for information regarding the patient’s diagnosis or condition. It is against the law for a health care provider to divulge patient information to an unauthorized individual. Ask the patient.
7. Get permission before plugging in your cellphone charger.
8. When taking the elevator, use public elevators. And when the doors open, stand back and allow the occupants to safely step out before entering.
– Patient-Centered Nurse in California
Dear Nurse: If readers take to heart your suggestions in the spirit they were given, everyone will benefit. That visitors would charge into hospital elevators, wander the halls, barge into patients’ rooms, and drag small children into sickrooms is an indication that there has been not only a decline in courtesy but also common sense.
Patients are in hospitals because they need intensive treatment and REST.
No need to feel guilty
Dear Abby: My ex-husband, “Charles,” is dying, and we have decided to get remarried before he dies so he won’t be alone at the end. (And also so I can receive his VA benefits when he’s gone.) Is this morally wrong? I do take care of him, but not all the time because Charles likes living with his uncle and will remain there after we marry. I guess I just have a little guilt trip going on.
– Guilt Trip in Texas
Dear Guilt Trip: Charles earned his benefits. I see nothing morally wrong with people providing for someone they care for after their death. Unless Charles was coerced into his generosity, I can’t see why you should feel guilty.
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