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Dear Abby: Wrong way to protect daughter

Dear Abby: I am 16, and my old friend from grammar school is getting married next month. I just received a wedding invitation. However, my mother does not approve of her getting married at such a young age (18) and has forbidden me to go or even talk to her. I haven’t seen this friend in more than two years because she moved away and has only recently returned. I want to attend her wedding. How can I go about convincing my mom to let me go?

– Invited in Las Vegas

Dear Invited: At 18, the bride-to-be is an adult, and while marriage at such a young age isn’t advisable for many reasons, there’s nothing immoral about it. I’m sorry you didn’t mention what might have happened in your friend’s life in the last two years, because it may be the reason your mother is worried about your associating with her. Your mom may want to protect you, but she’s going about it in the wrong way. You could learn a lot about life by simply observing what happens to your friend after she has reached the altar.

Break silence with brother

Dear Abby: My brother, my only sibling, hasn’t contacted me in 14 years. I have tried to figure out why. I wasn’t mean to him, and we didn’t fight. I really miss him and care about him.

I live in a group home and wonder if he’s ashamed of me. He has accomplished more jobwise than I have.

I want to move on with my life, but I continue to fixate on why he seems to dislike me. I could use your opinion.

– His Sister in Maryland

Dear Sister: How sad. Try writing him a letter. Tell him that you miss him and care about him and would like to know why he hasn’t contacted you.

If he doesn’t respond, please understand that his silence has less to do with you or your living situation than it does about him and his inability to empathize. You have every right to live your life as fully and enjoyably as possible, and whatever happens, I hope you will do that.