Dear Abby: I have been invited to a high school graduation for twin girls. One of them has been our baby sitter for almost three years, and we have formed a close relationship with her. We know her sister, but do not have the same relationship with her.
We would like to give our baby sitter more money for graduation, but do not want to offend her sister. What should we do?
– Can’t Decide in Ohio
Dear Can’t Decide: When you give the girls their graduation cards, enclose a check in each for the same amount of money. Later, privately, you can give your baby sitter something extra as a token of your appreciation. That way, it will be less obvious and may avoid hurt feelings.
This marriage stinks
Dear Abby: I married the love of my life eight years ago. He’s a wonderful husband, father and provider. He has just one flaw – his hygiene.
He works long hours and is usually exhausted when he gets home. He showers maybe once a week, and brushes his teeth less often. Sometimes he makes sexual advances, but I’m so turned off by his smell that I just can’t do it.
I have tried asking him to be cleaner. I have even been upfront about what other people have said about his lack of cleanliness. I even tried making shower time “fun,” but a girl can’t do that every night!
I’m becoming so frustrated. I’m a clean person, and I keep hoping one day he’ll adopt my habits, but it doesn’t look like it’s happening soon. Any advice?
– Holding My Nose in Idaho
Dear Holding Your Nose: It appears this wonderful husband, father and provider has the personal habits of a goat. If he has enough energy to make advances at the end of a long workday, then he should have enough to take a shower and brush his teeth. Unless you plan to wear a clothespin on your nose during marital relations, you should insist upon it.