Dear Abby: I am 19, and because of some traumatic events in my past, I’m afraid of the dark and sleep with my baby blanket. I went to counseling about it, but I eventually stopped because it didn’t help. I haven’t had any real problems as a result of the issue because I live at home and my boyfriend has been supportive of my needs when I stay with him. Plus, I don’t need my blanket when I’m with him.
My concern is about the upcoming semester. I will have to move to the main campus of my university in order to continue my education. This means I’ll be living in a shared dorm. The two times it came up during high school, I was teased mercilessly until something else came along. While I have reached the point where I can go without my blanket for a few nights, any longer and it starts to get to me. I don’t want to have problems when I move to the main campus because I’m already going to stand out for moving in the middle of the year, but I don’t know how to keep training myself to give up my blanket.
– Still Scared in Delaware
Dear Still Scared: You might not have to. I have a suggestion that might be helpful, but it would require having your blanket converted into a “huggie pillow.” That way you can still sleep with it but it would no longer resemble a baby blanket. Many people sleep with an extra pillow, so it wouldn’t appear to be odd at all.
Crush on teacher will fade
Dear Abby: What do you do if you like a teacher? Do you just hide it? He always comes to my table, and I can’t focus because I get so distracted. I think he’s very good-looking. I’m 13 and he’s 23. What should I do?
– Crushing in California
Dear Crushing: What you’re experiencing happens in countless classrooms, and it’s perfectly normal.
The emotions you’re feeling will fade once an attractive young man your age appears on the horizon. Trust me on that, because I speak from experience.